I know, I know I am to be extremely thankful for everything. I know I am very fortunate to live in Canada, to travel, to work with such talented people, to have family and friends and the list can go on for a long, long time. So why is it that there are times when I still feel unsettled and, in truth, ungrateful? There are some days when I wake up and really have to search for what will be the miracle needed to change my attitude. Thank goodness this doesn’t happen very often – but when it does, I am at loose ends and don’t know how to handle myself, let alone be with anyone else. This isn’t something I like to admit, but I believe if we all were honest with ourselves, we all have days like this.
So why on earth would I write about this right after Thanksgiving? I think that – too often – we are afraid to admit times when things just aren’t right within ourselves and we wear a mask to conceal our true feelings. Then, we take it out on someone else – usually our spouse, children or co-workers at our own hotels. Don’t get me wrong – I don’t think it is okay on days when I am like this to make everyone else around me as miserable. That is totally unacceptable! What I do think is important is to be honest with yourself and your emotions. The more honest we are with ourselves, then the more honest we will be with other people around us and not lash out at the people closest to us. When I acknowledge my emotions honestly, then I know how I need to act when I am around other people. I know that I have to be more conscious of these darker moods and learn ways to control them so I do not alienate others. No one else deserves my moods and no one else wants to be around negativity.
I have written time and time again: it is our choice how we react and I firmly believe this. However, I also know that there are times when, no matter what, there is a struggle within me. I decided to share this around Thanksgiving as so many times we beat ourselves up because there is so much around us to be thankful for but we need to be gentle with ourselves. We are human!
All of these situations allow us to grow on our life journey.
It is up to us to use this knowledge and work within ourselves. We are the only ones who can change – no one else can. Instead of being thankful for all the good (which we need to be), maybe we should be thankful for some of the not-so-good. It is these times that will have the biggest impact on our own growth if we allow them to. This Thanksgiving, I am thankful for all I have but I am also very thankful for the times I have struggled. It is my biggest growth as a person.
-Betty Anne Latrace-Henderson
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